Of course, any time you lose a loved one, it is almost always a difficult and sad time. However, when a child’s life is lost, your feelings are especially tender. You may be asking yourself, “How could this have happened, when there are elderly people who are just waiting desperately to leave earth?” On the other hand, if the child has battled a terminal illness for a long time, you may be experiencing the sweet realization that they no longer suffer and that they are with her Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ.
No matter how the child died, planning a funeral is ahead of you, and you want it to be comforting and uplifting. Hopefully, you have somebody close to you who will be helping you. As you plan, there are steps you can take to make it a sweet event.
A Display Table – This is an opportunity for you to let family friends know your child better. The funeral home will provide a table for you for this purpose. Set out your child’s favorite toys, crafts he has made, and items that represent his hobbies and interests. A collection of pictures from birth to more recent ones, including family vacations, photos of him with his friends, with family pets, and one central portrait, as well.
The Music – Did your child have favorite hymns? Some to consider are Jesus Wants Me For A Sunbeam, Jesus Loves Me, I Am A Child of God, and I’m Trying To Be Like Jesus. Remember that your child’s friends and young family members are grieving, too. They might be comforted if they are invited to participate in a children’s choir. Remember, the music doesn’t have to all be religious. Consider adding lovely songs like Toy Story’s You’ve Got A Friend In Me and Tarzan’s You’ll Be In My Heart. A special closing song is Abide With Me or ‘Til We Meet Again.
The Service – People usually attend funeral services to support and comfort the family of the deceased person and to seek comfort for themselves. When you ask special friends and family members to speak, consider asking them to make their talks uplifting ones. Provide special stories of humorous incidents and of special incidents that occurred in your child’s life. These might include his achievements at school, participation in sports, or events that happened on family trips. Share things about your child’s personality and their young philosophy of life. If siblings or close family members are comfortable speaking, it is very appropriate for you to ask them to relate special times they remember of time spent with your child.
A Keepsake – As people leave the funeral services, consider sending them away with a special keepsake. A bookmark with the words from The Lord’s Prayer, a small photograph of your child, or a copy of their favorite story are some suggestions.
Hopefully you, too, will be comforted by the lovely funeral, like those held at Christmans Funeral Home Inc, you have planned for your beloved child.